Anchors for the soul

Every person needs to know who they are and where they fit in their society. These things are taught to children as they are growing up. In primitive societies children have to complete rites of passage before they can become adults. In many modern societies there are no rites of passage. When a child reaches the age of two they realise that they are different from the rest of the world and they need to find out where "I" stops and the rest of the world starts. This process continues on into adulthood. A child who learns where "I" stops then feels secure because they know their boundaries and they can define themselves. A child who has boundaries will have an anchor for their soul. Children without these anchors will feel significant pain and this pain will keep with them throughout their lives unless they can find a true anchor. This leads to the need to anaesthetise the soul.