We saw, recently, that the future work of the Lord Jesus
Christ includes the promise that there would be a marriage between the Lord and
His chosen ones. This marriage will be the basis of all the His future works.
We must be careful not to impose our modern, muscular, postmodern feminism upon
the Biblical concept of marriage.
Matt 25: 1-13, “Then shall the kingdom of heaven be
likened unto ten virgins, which took their lamps, and went forth to meet the
bridegroom. And five of them were wise, and five were foolish. They that were
foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them: But the wise took oil in
their vessels with their lamps. While the bridegroom tarried, they all
slumbered and slept. 6 And at midnight there was a cry made, Behold, the
bridegroom cometh; go ye out to meet him. Then all those virgins arose, and
trimmed their lamps. And the foolish said unto the wise, Give us of your oil;
for our lamps are gone out. But the wise answered, saying, Not so; lest there
be not enough for us and you: but go ye rather to them that sell, and buy for
yourselves. And while they went to buy, the bridegroom came; and they that were
ready went in with him to the marriage: and the door was shut. Afterward came
also the other virgins, saying, Lord, Lord, open to us. But he answered and
said, Verily I say unto you, I know you not. Watch therefore, for ye know
neither the day nor the hour wherein the Son of man cometh.”
While this passage is, primarily, about being prepared
for the return of the Son of Man, it also give us an important insight into the
culture of ancient middle eastern marriages.
Israel was a patriarchal society and their understanding
of marriage was based on Gen 2:21–23, “And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to
fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the
flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made
he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my
bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken
out of Man.” and Gen 3:16 , “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply
thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and
thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” However this
definition was overlaid with customs from ancient times.
Marriages were always arranged, a contract was drawn up
and legal papers were drafted defining the rights of the husband and wife. We
can verify this from Mat 1:18–19, “Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this
wise: When as his mother Mary was espoused to Joseph, before they came
together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then Joseph her husband,
being a just man, and not willing to make her a publick example, was minded to
put her away privily.” In that case Mary and Joseph were betrothed and legally
committed to each other but not yet married and living together. This betrothal
took place some time before the marriage but was considered to be legally
binding.
The passage we have read illustrates the next phase of a
marriage. At the agreed time, a man would go to his intended’s house and take
her away to the marriage ceremony. This ceremony lasted seven days or sometimes
even more (compare Gen 29:27, “Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also
for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years.”). The
wedding feast would be a time a great celebration. The marriage fest began when
the bride and groom arrived at the groom’s house. When they got there the doors
would be shut and the ceremony proceed.
When the groom went to the bride’s house he would find
his friend, the friend of the groom, (John 3:29, “He that hath the bride is the
bridegroom: but the friend of the bridegroom, which standeth and heareth him,
rejoiceth greatly because of the bridegroom’s voice: this my joy therefore is
fulfilled.”) would hear his voice and know that his job was finished. His task
was to stay with the bride during the betrothal period and make sure that she
was prepared when the groom came.
The Procession would begin with the groom dressing
himself in his wedding garments, wearing a crown of gold, silver or flowers and
head towards the bride’s home. He would leave from a place that was kept secret
until the last minute to collect his bride. The unmarried women would wait
along the pathway with their lamps lit. They would wait until they heard the
call, “Behold the bridegroom cometh!” and they would meet him and go the
entrance to the bride’s home.
While all this happened the bride would prepare herself
for the wedding ceremony. She would bathe herself and then make sure she was
ceremonially pure before she dressed in appropriate clothing with many jewels.
She would be covered with a veil and then the procession would continue to the
groom’s house. Along the way there would be great celebrations would walk,
dance, sing and cast flowers along the way. The bride was carried high above
the crowd.
When they arrived at the groom’s home they would both go
under the canopy or “Chupa” then they would go the bridal chamber and
consummate the marriage. The doors would be shut and the feasting would begin.
During the marriage feast the bride and groom would be treated as a king and
queen. Everyone who attended the feast were given special clothes to wear and
the ruler of the feast was responsible for making sure that everything was
prepared. It was considered to be a very bad omen if the wedding supplies ran
out during the festival and all the guests would say that the marriage was
doomed from the start.
The virgins who waited along the street were expected to
keep their lamps burning during the procession and then they would go into the
wedding feast with the rest of the bridal party. Once the door was shut no one
else was allowed to enter into the ceremony so anyone who was invited had to
make sure they were ready to go in with the bride and groom when they arrived
at his home.
The groom’s family would pay a bride price to her family.
This money would compensate the bride’s family for the fact that they were
losing someone from their family but was also kept for the bride in case the
husband left her later (compare Gen 31:15–16, “Are we not counted of him
strangers? for he hath sold us, and hath quite devoured also our money. For all
the riches which God hath taken from our father, that is ours, and our
children’s: now then, whatsoever God hath said unto thee, do.”)
In the parable we read, we saw how the people involved in
the wedding feast were expected to be ready and waiting for the groom to come
so that they wouldn’t miss the wedding celebration. This is an important aspect
of the entire ceremony. The groom would leave to get the bride at a time of his
own choosing and then the rest of the guests would take their cue from that.
This would mean that everyone involved would have to be prepared to a certain
extent so that they could go to the groom’s home at the proper time and enjoy
the feast.
Another aspect is that the guests were provided with the
correct garments to celebrate the wedding feast. This adds an extra insight to
one of the Lord’s parables about wedding feasts and the need to be ready (Mat
22:11–13, “And when the king came in to see the guests, he saw there a man
which had not on a wedding garment: And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest
thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless. Then said
the king to the servants, Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast
him into outer darkness; there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”) This
fact is also emphasised by John when he was writing about a future time at the
marriage supper of the Lamb (Rev 19:8, “And to her was granted that she should
be arrayed in fine linen, clean and white: for the fine linen is the
righteousness of saints.”)
If we understand the context of the wedding ceremonies
then we can better understand the meaning of the Lord’s parables about weddings
and the need to be ready for the procession and the ceremony.
One very important aspect of the Biblical wedding customs
is the fact that there are actually three different phases. The first phase
occurs when the arrangements are made by the families, or their
representatives. This is the legal and binding phase of the wedding process and
the rest involves taking advantage of the privileges after all the responsibilities
have been satisfied.
The second and third phases closely follow each other in
time sequence and the third will automatically follow soon after the second is
started.
If the Lord God plans to marry His chosen ones then He
will follow the customs of the Bible as He carries out this plan.
The first phase of the marriage ceremony has already been
completed. The legal, binding promise of a marriage has already been satisfied.
The bride price has already been paid. This was accomplished at Calvary. The
Lord Jesus Christ made promises to His disciples that He would offer them
everlasting life (John 3: 16) and that He would come back and take them to be
with Himself forever (John 14:2–3, “In my Father’s house are many mansions: if
it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if
I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto
myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.”) This is the ultimate and most
important aspect of marriage as defined by the Lord. (compare again, Gen
2:18–20, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I
will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed
every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam
to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living
creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to
the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was
not found an help meet for him.”)
The only time that the Lord Jesus Christ was alone was
while He was on the cross (Mat 27:46, “And about the ninth hour Jesus cried
with a loud voice, saying, Eli, Eli, lama sabachthani? that is to say, My God,
my God, why hast thou forsaken me?”) Apart from that He has always had a close
and seamless relationship with the Father (see, John 1:18, “No man hath seen
God at any time; the only begotten Son, which is in the bosom of the Father, he
hath declared him.”) However, after sin entered into the world, a division was
created between men and women, because of sin (the man was to rule over the
woman) and everyone has suffered from some form of loneliness ever since. This
will all be done away with when the Lord comes and the wedding supper of the
Lamb takes place (Rev 21:4, “And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes;
and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall
there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.”) The bride will
never be alone again.
However, there are still two phases to come, the heavenly
groom will come and call the bride away and then the marriage ceremony will be
finalised.
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